"Be the Change": Embracing Your Leadership Potential and Making a Difference in Your Community

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Coming up on this episode of the
Healthy, Wealthy, and Wise podcast.

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There is nothing I would say any
young person could not do and

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that includes the presidency.

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They can do anything.

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The world really is sitting at their feet.

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They just have to.

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Welcome to the Healthy, Wealthy,
and Wise podcast with Dr.

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William T.

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Choctaw, MD, JD.

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This podcast will provide you with
tools and actionable information

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you can use to help live a more
healthy, wealthy, and wise life.

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It's powered by the over 50 years
of medical experience of this Yale

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University Medical School trained
surgeon, who is also a Western State

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Law School trained attorney, with
executive experience being a former

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mayor of Walnut, California, as well as
Well as the current chairman of the non

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profit Servants Arms and as president
of Choctaw Medical Group, Incorporated.

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This is the Leadership Masterclass
Edition, already in progress.

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You

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had mentioned the youth in terms of
your involvement and part of your

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interest in addition to the elder
care and the elder individuals.

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How else are you
interacting with the youth?

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Well currently in my church
I do teach Sunday school.

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I've been doing that.

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But probably since man, 20 years,
I'll just say 20 years, cause I

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honestly don't know when I started.

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I've been doing it so long, but even
former students who were, who grew up at

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our church, I stay connected with him.

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Some of them, some of them have gotten
married and I've been to the weddings.

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I still sit down with them,
break bread with them.

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But what I would like to do, and
not necessarily in our church,

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but we can start there, but also
in our community, is create.

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Safe spaces for these teenagers
to come and just share and talk,

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bond, and get whatever resource that
they need to be better, you know,

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mentally, physically, emotionally,
spiritually, and financial literacy.

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That's also another thing I'd love to get
involved with teaching them life skills.

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You know, a lot, a lot of them feel,
excuse me, a lot of them cannot do

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the simple things if they were put
out of the house at the age of 18.

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Although I support college, I support
working, and I support the military.

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There's something else
that they could be doing.

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But if they have the basic life skills
and then basic financial literacy skills.

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They're not going to, they're
always going to boomerang.

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Hey, what do you mean by life skills
and financial literacy skills?

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Well, now they do everything
on their phones through apps.

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But again, paying bills, cleaning,
keeping the house clean, uh,

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taking care of a vehicle.

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It doesn't run on water.

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I've seen young people who are now a 35
40 just run a car into the ground because

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they did not know it needs an oil change
every 3000 miles and rotating your tires.

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You know, there's so much
digital, um, Stuff around them.

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Then this cloud that he, okay, here's one
that really, that I was just talking about

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this on social media, counting, counting
without, without using your calculator,

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you know, we're taught differently.

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We had to do it in our heads.

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We didn't have it.

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And I've been to multiple restaurants,
drive through where they don't

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give me an exact change, even
though the computer says this

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person is owed X amount of dollars.

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They can't count money.

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A lot of people don't have a signature.

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You know, when you sign documents,
you need to have a signature.

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You cannot just put, you can't print.

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You have to have a signature like,

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you

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know, so simple things like that.

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I'm not saying that they're not
making it because they are, because

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if I live long enough, I'll probably
be working for a lot of them.

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It's simple things like
that communication skills.

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You know, that's a big thing for me
when I talk to them, instead of when I

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call a particular agency or something,
I feel like I either just woke them up.

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Or they're on the phone with their
girlfriend or boyfriend, like

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that really low, you know, hello.

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And so, so simple things like that,
you know, just teach them those things.

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Tell me more about communication skills.

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You know, the response of listening.

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Okay.

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So if you say, Hey, Laura, I don't
like it when you turn your head left,

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it

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makes me feel like you're not listening.

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Okay.

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So I said, okay, well, what I
heard you say is you need me

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to appear more attentive and be
intentional about listening, right?

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Can you speak it back?

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So that we know that each one of us knows.

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That we heard each other.

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Right, right, that you're communicating.

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And they, and the younger, the younger
generation doesn't really focus on that.

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They speak quickly as well.

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They talk really fast.

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And I'd imagine we sounded the same to our
parents and other folks that we spoke to

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out in the world when we became adults.

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But it's, it's a learned thing and
you got to be intentional about

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Listening before you talk, listen, like
thinking before you speak, everything

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is kind of knee jerk reaction.

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The whole, you got to
respect me to get respect.

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You know, you are, anyone is due
respect regardless of the age, you

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know, respect people's boundaries,
their space, their opinions.

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And it's, it's not always that way
with a particular generation, but

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it's also like that with sometimes the
older folks too, what I say goes, you

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know, but it goes, it goes both ways.

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And I think that's why.

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The younger generation has
a hard time communicating

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with the seasoned generation.

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Because they're literally
speaking two different languages.

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Right, understood.

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Do you believe, because you do work a
lot with youth and have for a number

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of years, that at this stage, the
youth that you're working with compared

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to I don't know, say 15 years ago.

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Do you believe that our youth, the more
movement toward college, less movement

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toward college, more, what, what major
shifts are you observing through,

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throughout your, your, um, activities?

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I think right now it's 50 50.

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I believe there are some kids in,
I don't know if there's so much

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themselves are pushed towards college.

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It might be the parents who are
saying you're going to go to college.

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They're afraid

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to steer toward the military.

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You know, because some parents
still think military equals death,

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and that's

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not the case, but I see them less,
on the other side, less are going

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to college or getting that four year
degree per se, versus a trade or

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going into

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IT, you

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know, because, well,
IT is sort of a trade.

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Oh, yeah, thank you.

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You know, it's something but other
than that, for your college degree,

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okay,

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a lot.

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And then there are some who are
just undecided altogether, because

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they just haven't prepared, and
you're comfortable, not launching,

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they're not even trying to launch.

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It's like, I'm gonna sit here, I'm
gonna work for whatever company.

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And as long as mom and
dad's Don't say I gotta go.

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I'm good.

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So, but yeah, I think it's 50 50 on the
ones that I've seen in the last 15 years.

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Although quite a few of them have gone
to college, they don't finish college.

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They don't finish.

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They don't finish.

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Yeah.

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Interesting.

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Because they were motivated at first,
but it was more to get away from home.

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Right.

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When the world said, hey, here
I am, it was like, no, I don't

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think I'm going to stay there.

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Let me go somewhere else.

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But you know what?

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But with that, I do try to be
encouraging, no matter what.

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But one thing you cannot do is you cannot
just sit still, you just, you cannot, time

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is not what it was, and the opportunities
are way better than they were even

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when I graduated from high school.

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You bet, you

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bet.

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Even 15

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years ago, even since 15 years ago,
the opportunities, there is nothing I

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would say any young person could not
do, and that includes the presidency.

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Mm hmm, mm hmm.

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They can do anything, the world really
is sitting at their feet, they just

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have to, Figure out what they're going
to do, which one they want to do.

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And it doesn't have to be one thing.

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It can be multiple things, but don't be
jack of all trade and the master of none.

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Right, right.

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I completely agree with you.

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I think, and you have to go get it.

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You know, you can't just wait for it to
come to you, wait for a miracle to happen.

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You are the miracle.

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Exactly.

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And it's gotta come.

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You, you've gotta create that miracle.

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And certainly I know my, you know, the
baby boomers, and I can't speak for all

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of us, but we were taught that you had
to go to college, that you, at least I

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was, that all those other options that
you think are options are really mirages.

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Yes, you, you can get a job at
the blah, blah, blah, and make

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good money and maybe buy a car,
but how long is that gonna last?

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How long is that job gonna last?

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What happens when those rent
prices double or triple?

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Or those mortgages go up or that
insurance goes up or xyz company

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goes out of business And all those
people get let go what happens then?

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What are your options and college is
really about options it quite honestly

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about you get a good education at any
good college but one of the things that

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I have found confused not confusing but
concerning Is the false equivalency?

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of college and Trait They're not equal.

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They're not equal at all.

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Nothing wrong with the trade, but it's
not, it's not sustainable long term.

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Or to put it another way, you can do
it when you're 20, but when you're

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40 and you've got two kids, and
maybe one wants to go to college, you

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may need to have a higher level of
income coming in, because your bills

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are definitely going to be higher.

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But a lot of times, a lot of folks
don't think about that, and you have

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to make those investments early.

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You don't have to, but it's
easier if you make them early.

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You can make them later.

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I've seen people go back to school,
God bless them, and just do wonderful

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things, but it is extremely difficult.

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It

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is doable.

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It is very difficult.

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You know, on that note, on that note,
Doc, I do want to go back and say

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this because when people do listen to
this, I don't want them to think That

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I'm not being sensitive to different
situations because for some, when it

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comes to college for some money is tight.

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You know, there are a lot of
students who don't want to put

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that debt on their parents.

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And then there are students who
don't want to graduate with debt.

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But Pastor McCall used to say,
that's good debt that you invest

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in your college education.

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And I don't want to overlook the ones
with that entrepreneurial spirit.

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So many businesses started.

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Side side hustles, whatever we want to
call them started during the pandemic,

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right?

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A lot of them were still successful.

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So Again, but what's the backup
plan if that falls through?

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Have one if it's not going to be
college you gotta have something

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because really when that rug is
pulled from under you because of

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You may not be able to go back home.

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Right, right.

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You

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know, you don't want to say, well I'll
just sit and collect my unemployment.

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No, that's not, that should not be a goal.

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That's

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not a plan.

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That's not a plan.

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But I didn't, definitely didn't want
to say because when I went to college,

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I first went to a junior college.

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Okay.

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And I pretty much went for free
because, My mom was a single mom.

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Of course it was way cheaper then.

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And then when I went back to school
to get to finish, cause I didn't

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finish the junior college, I got a
job at the factory where I was telling

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you and I was like, forget college,
I'm going to go make some money.

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But for years before I got my
bachelor's, which was 2010.

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So if you think time that was in between
my mother, Please go back to school.

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Please go back to school.

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And there

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was other people who had a lot
more wisdom than I had kept

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telling me to go back to school.

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And then I had this, then the Lord
met me where I was, and I jumped left

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that job and I went back to school.

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But it just took me, unfortunately,
it took me a while to get there.

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Um, but yes, I realized if I did not
have my college degree, And different

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little certifications understood,
I would not be able to be doing

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what I'm doing now, you know, it's
not just about getting the degree.

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It's what you're learning in school, but
also what you're learning in between.

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And then how are you going to apply it?

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Because this is really nice to have a
master's in, in business because I want

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to be a long distance truck driver.

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You know what I mean?

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Like, it's like, You got to figure
out where you're going to use that.

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Exactly.

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Exactly.

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Yes, and I think going back to this whole
illusion Of i'm going to be debt free.

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This is the real world And this is united
states of america and unless your parents

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are independently wealthy or you're
going to independent be independently

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wealthy You're going to have some debt.

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Yes, that's just life that there's
nothing bad about that You pay it off,

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you know there if you ask a hundred
people who have a hundred homes right now

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I'm, I'm gonna bet that almost none of
them have paid for that house in cash.

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They have something called a mortgage.

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Now that may sound fancy, but it's a debt.

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It's a debt that you pay to the bank, you
know, with a certain percentage of this

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and certain percentage of that, but it's
still your house, you know, you don't feel

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like you're homeless just because, so,
you know, we just got to get over that,

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you know, uh, there is no get rich quick.

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Thing that that's an illusion.

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Uh, you can go to vegas every single
day And I guarantee you you will not

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be a billionaire or a millionaire

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You

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got a room

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waiting for you every time That's right.

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They will

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give you a free room waiting

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on you to come

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And give you free food Yeah, because
it is worth it for them because you're

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going to give them all that money and
more even back I and sometimes it it

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does bother me, you know That our youth
and I I don't have all the answers

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But, bottom line is you got to go to
college, and to your point, and finish.

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You got to get the degree.

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Just going just to hang out
and find girlfriends and

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boyfriends is wasting your time.

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You got to go, you got to get a degree,
and you got to apply that degree.

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Now that's a lot of ifs.

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And it's not easy, but it's
not supposed to be easy.

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It's not supposed to be easy.

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Um, but once you go through that and earn
something, then that gives you confidence

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to go again and again and again and again.

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The people who many times who drop
out, who lack that confidence, either

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because they never had it or people
around them are not supportive.

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You know, I've seen moms and
dads say, Oh, no, no, no, no.

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You're not college material.

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Well, see, I don't believe that.

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That exists.

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Right.

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I don't, I think everybody's
college material.

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You may not all major in the
same subject matter in college,

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but you're college material.

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It's like saying you're
not high school material.

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You know, who can't go to high
school or junior high school?

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So we'll, we'll see.

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But I think leaders like yourself who are
young, who are out there, who are engaging

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the young people in addition to the, the
seniors, I think that's really where the

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future is and where things are going to
go depending on how things work with that.

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Right.

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How are you integrating your
beliefs, your, your Christian

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beliefs in what you're doing now?

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How is that a part of, of
you and that sort of thing?

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That is, as you can see, I was beaming,
you know, that's a great question.

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And let me tell you how God used me
and the listeners, of course, too.

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So when we, I, when I go to see the
city council meetings, there's an

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invocation for the invocation, and
then we say the Pledge of Allegiance.

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And I don't remember when I first
did it, but the mayor was looking

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for a particular minister who usually
attends the city council meetings,

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and he didn't see that person.

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And he's looking, he's like, is any,
does anybody here to lead the invocation?

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To lead a prayer invocation.

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I threw my hand up, he says,
Oh, okay, Commissioner Franklin.

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We stood up and out again
for such a time as this.

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Uh huh.

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Uh huh.

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I got up.

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I mean, I didn't say
no sermon or anything.

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And I was sincere with my prayer and
I had to remember number one, this

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event is live and it's recorded.

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Number two, everyone in this
room does not, no one in this

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room looks like me, but me.

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And number three, I don't
know what's going to happen

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after that, but I didn't care.

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I

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had stepped up

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and

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done what was asked.

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Right.

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That's leadership.

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Yep.

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Yes.

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And so when I did that, I cannot tell you
how many people I text and email like, You

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know, I was so excited and because that
was also part of me stepping out of my

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comfort zone.

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Right.

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You needed that.

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Yes.

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Yes,

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I needed that because, again, I
had been the housing commissioner.

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For a while and it wasn't to be seen.

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It was just like I have an opportunity
to pray In front of who knows by the

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time how many years goes by and somebody
goes back to listen And since that time

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I have I think I have probably prayed
Before the city council meetings,

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maybe 10 or more times, at least 15.

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And so it's now, if the mayor
doesn't see anybody, he still has

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to ask, he doesn't tell me to get up

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and

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I make sure that I'm intentional about
praying for our city, our city leaders.

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Our community as a whole and
individually, all those kinds of things.

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Whoever listens to it can
say, Hey, Laura prayed for me.

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I don't know what they
may be going through.

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You just never know, but they
heard that prayer just enough.

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And that might be the thing
they need to get over the hump.

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And just think how many people
you've probably blessed who you

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don't know and will never know.

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Correct.

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But who have been blessed
by listening to your words.

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Correct.

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And your words of encouragement, etc, etc.

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It is very powerful.

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Yep, you're right.

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And I remember, Four or five months.

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I had done it a few times.

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A resident came to me, an African
American woman came to me who I

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hadn't seen at any of these meetings
all this time I'd been going.

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And she said, thank you for your prayer.

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She said that made me want
to come to the meetings now.

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So again,

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someone stepping up, of course,
like I said, they can see me.

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So it's because it's recorded live.

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And but again, representation matters.

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I don't know if she's a woman of faith.

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She could be, but the point is she
saw an African American woman praying

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at a city council meeting that is
predominantly Hispanic as far as the dais,

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as well as the folks in the audience.

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Right.

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And so I guess it compelled her.

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You know what?

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I need to get up and go.

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Because at one point, I remember
a few people were saying, well, we

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tried to do certain things in the
community and we got a lot of pushback.

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But she said, I'm really
glad that you were able

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to

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kind of kick those doors in, if you will.

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Yes.

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Somebody's got to do it.

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And then we all follow through.

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It

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didn't make sense to me why
certain things weren't here.

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So I'm like, well, you're
getting our tax dollars.

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Why not?

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Celebrate everybody.

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Again, the hub needs to reflect the
community and it needs to celebrate

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all in the community, not just the few
that you, that's in your, your purview.

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Absolutely.

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Absolutely.

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Well, is there anything else
you want to share with us?

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I want to be respectful
of your time and anything.

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And keep in mind, I think I mentioned
before, but we have Over 200 000

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downloads all over the world.

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Oh, wow people who are listening
to you This is our second

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year with the podcast brother.

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Jesse hammonds and myself and so again
Like the lady in baltimore park who

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came out to the to the council meeting,
you know There are folks who listen to

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you all over and some they said well,
you know I I want to do what that young

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lady was talking about and maybe i'll
go to the next city council meeting or

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Run for city council or participate as a
housing commissioner Et cetera, et cetera.

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So, you know, any, any, anything
you want to tell them or, or

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share both with all of us.

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Yes.

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Thank you.

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So if more, if the listeners would like to
learn more about me, because you can only

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get so much done in an hour, they can go
to my website at L F the number four BP.

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com.

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And I'll say L as in
Laura F as in Franklin.

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The number for the letter B for
Baldwin, for Baldwin, P for park.

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com.

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So L F for BP.

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com is the website.

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Okay.

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And then also again, if with donations
in case they missed it, they can

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always Zelle through Laura and
Franklin nine one nine at gmail.

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com.

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And that's L a U R a.

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A-N-N-F-R-A-N-K-L-I n919@gmail.com and
also for Baldwin Park, California City

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Council meetings are the first and third
Wednesday of every month at 7:00 PM

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Okay.

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And if Pacific

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time,

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specific time.

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Yeah.

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Oh, Pacific.

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Thank you.

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I keep forgetting Pacific time.

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And also number three, this
is a little of encouragement.

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So a lot of folks say, I don't go to
city council meetings or city events.

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Or pour my money into things
in whatever city because the

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representation isn't there.

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And the represent, excuse me,
the representation isn't there

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because you aren't there.

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Right.

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You are the representation.

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Exactly.

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So go out there and get it done
because there's still work to do.

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Exactly.

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Exactly.

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Well, you know, I think I should
share with the audience, I've

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known Laura for many, many years.

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She and I go to the same church in
California, and more significantly,

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I used to teach Sunday school at
that church, and Laura was one of

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my students, believe it or not.

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She has grandkids now, remember what she
said, but she was one of my students.

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I think she was like 11th or 12th
grade, so I have had the joy and the

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pleasure of watching Laura grow up and
become a, uh, an extraordinary person.

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She's an extraordinary young lady and
a leader on multiple levels and I am

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just extraordinarily delighted that
she's looking at even higher levels of

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participation and leadership and going
for political leadership in her city.

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And we certainly keep her in our
prayers and, and wish her all the best.

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And anything else, Laura?

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No, I just want to say thank
you to Healthy, Wealthy and

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Wise Podcast for having me on.

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I really appreciate it and I
just look forward to hearing

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from other folks out there.

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Okay, very good.

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All right.

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Thank you.

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And as we always like to say, be the
change you want to see in the world.

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Take

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care.

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bye-bye bye-Bye.

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Thank you for listening to the Healthy,
wealthy, and Wise podcast with Dr.

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William t Choctaw, md, jd.

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