Fatherhood & Leadership: Lessons in Guiding the Next Generation to Excellence

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Coming up on this episode of the
Healthy, Wealthy and Wise podcast.

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This is why, because it sets
you up for this and it creates

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this type of environment.

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Yes.

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You know, and, uh, and, and one of the
things that I've told all my, all my

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boys is, is my ultimate goal in life is.

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Welcome to the Healthy, Wealthy
and Wise podcast with Dr.

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William T.

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Choctaw, MD, JD.

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This podcast will provide you with
tools and actionable information

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you can use to help live a more.

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Healthy, wealthy, and Wise Life.

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It's powered by the over 50 years of
medical experience of this Yale University

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Medical School trained surgeon who is
also a Western state law school trained

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attorney with executive experience being
a former mayor of Walnut, California,

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as well as the current chairman of the
nonprofit Servants Arms, and as president

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of Choctaw Medical Group Incorporated.

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This is the leadership masterclass.

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Welcome,

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ladies and gentlemen, to our next episode
of the Healthy, Wealthy and Wise podcast.

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We are absolutely delighted to
have one of our unique leaders.

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Um, and we indeed, uh, view
this podcast as an offshoot

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of the leadership masterclass.

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And one of the things that we try
to do on a regular basis is have

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leaders in different levels of
leadership and have them to stop

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by and share their words of wisdom.

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with us.

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Uh, we are absolutely, uh,
thrilled, uh, to have, uh, Mr.

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Preston Choctaw.

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Now you may say, wait a
second, wait a second, Choctaw?

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And I, and I would say,
yes, you heard that right.

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Uh, he is indeed one of my progeny
and we will, we will have him,

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uh, to tell us about himself.

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But welcome, Preston.

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Welcome to the Healthy,
Wealthy and Wise podcast.

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Well, thank you very much.

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Very glad to be here.

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Glad to be here.

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Give us your thoughts about leadership
and what has been your experience over,

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uh, your, your, uh, lifespan, uh, in terms
of, uh, what you think leadership is and,

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and how have you been involved with it?

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I make sure that I spend time with them.

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Yes.

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I make

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sure that they, that I interact
with them, that I talk to, to

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ask them about how their day is.

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And, and we talk about, I mean, I, I
have, there's times where I always try

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to spend time with at least one of them,
you know, by themselves and just asking

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questions and just having, having a
dialogue and, and getting to know them

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just because they're constantly evolving.

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Right.

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They're constantly growing and
they're changing and it's like,

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and it's like, I want to keep tabs.

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I don't.

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On where they're at now.

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Like, for instance, uh, uh, the
best example is Vincent, you know?

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When I look at, you know, when I look from
when he was a toddler, you know, and then

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all the way through elementary school,
and then through middle school, right?

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And then through high, I mean, he has
evolved so many different times, and he's

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constantly learning and, And shifting and

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growing

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and I think a role as a father and
as a parent is to help to guide as

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they're shifting and they're growing.

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Absolutely.

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Absolutely.

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Like especially with Vincent he got
to some Really key points in his life.

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You can see transitional periods, right?

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Transitional points where it's like, you
can go this way or you can go that way.

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Which way are you going to go?

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And me as a father, I'm like.

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Hey Vince, let's get you this way, why
don't you go this way, and this is why,

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right, right, and this is why, this
is why, this is the way to go, this is

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why, cause it sets you up for this, and
it creates this type of environment,

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and, you know, and, uh, and, and one
of the things that I've told all my,

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all my boys is, Is my ultimate goal in
life is to have you do better than me.

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No matter what it is.

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I don't care what I don't care
what I just want you to excel me.

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I want you Whatever field you want to do
no matter what it is That's what my goal

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is because at the end of the day, I mean,
I mean we only have finite days, right?

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We're not gonna live forever.

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That's right.

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And honestly, the key to
immortality is your kids, right?

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I mean, that is how you're, you know,
but, but, but even beyond that, it doesn't

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have to be your biological kids either.

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It could be adopted kids, or it
could don't even need to be kids.

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It could just be friends, right?

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It could just be how people
know you and how people.

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Relate to the relationships.

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Yes, that's that.

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That to me is, is what immortality is.

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But, but I mean, but immortality
sounds, you know, kind of selfish.

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I don't really mean it.

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I don't mean it in that way.

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I mean, it in, in terms of.

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Um, I just, I just want my family and
my boys to, to do the best that they can

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and hopefully they will have families
of their own and they would help to

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bring that as well and have them strive
to do the best that they can as well.

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I, I think that's an excellent
part, uh, to sort of stop, uh,

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and just sort of leave that.

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Those thoughts that you just
communicated to the public.

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And I, I think it's important, uh, as
we, as we talk about work life balance.

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And I think, and we even talked about
this this morning in Sunday school, in

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the men's class, that generationally.

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Those things change and have changed,
you know, the, the baby boomer

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generation or earlier, earlier, you
know, the breadwinner was usually only

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the father, um, and on and on and on.

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Uh, but that was the
price, a cost for that.

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And I think the other generations,
your generations and the ones.

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Following have sort of right at that
ship a bit says, okay, I can do both,

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which is what, what you just said.

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Um, you talked about all the things
that you're doing and, and the minimum

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hours and the maximum hours in a
day, but yeah, you prioritize, uh,

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your family and your wife and your
children and, and that sort of thing.

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I call that work life balance.

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It's work life.

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It's not easy.

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Um, uh, it's hard to do.

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You may try and fail and try and
fail and try and fail, but you

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keep trying because that's really
sort of where you want to get to.

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Um, I think, uh, in,
in life and everything.

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Well, sir, I, you know, I, I am
just absolutely delighted to, to

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hear you talk to us and educate us.

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We will bring you back because we,
there's so much more we need to go over

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just, just the Lean Six Sigma stuff.

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And for many of our listeners,
as I said, Preston is my youngest

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son, uh, but Preston became a Six
Sigma Black Belt before I did.

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As a matter of fact,
Preston was my instructor.

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And helping me to become a Six Sigma
Black Belt, even though we were

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in completely different cities.

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So there's a lot to unpack here.

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But first, there's no way we can
thank you for taking time out of your

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precious day to share your experiences.

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It is our hope and our belief that
a number of people listening to your

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story Will will identify with it and
it will help them, you know, male or

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female or whoever they are and the
things that you've learned and the

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things that you've been able to share.

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Any final comments do you want
to make before we we let you go?

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Um, Well, I mean, probably the only
thing I'd say is, um, um, I, I,

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I think, I believe that, uh, uh,
this, this podcast is a great forum.

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Um, this is the, the future.

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Yes.

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Podcasts are the future.

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Yes.

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I think that you can even think
about where we're at as a country

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and seeing the impact of podcasts.

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Yes.

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Yes.

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Um, so the more, um, uh, positivity, the
more, uh, information that we can provide,

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uh, to your listeners, um, to help them
become, uh, healthy, wealthy, and wise.

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Again, I want to be
respectful of your time.

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Uh, give everybody a hug for me.

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Love you.

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Appreciate your time and, and, and
commitment and that sort of thing.

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And we've, we've learned
a lot from you today.

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We've learned a lot from you.

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I'm, I'm very glad.

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Okay.

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All right.

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Well, listen, you take care, sir.

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As I said, love you and
have a wonderful day.

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Thank you.

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You too.

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Thank you, Jesse.

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God bless you.

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Bye bye.

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God bless.

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Okay.

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