The Truth About "Good Stress" and How to Manage It

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Rev Andrew Collins: Andrew Hol.

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Good morning everyone.

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Good morning.

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What I want do is to read you, uh,
scripture here of Psalms one, and he

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reads, thus, blessed is the man that walk
it not in the council of the ungodly, not

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nor standard in the way of the sin, uh,
seated in the seat of the scorn, but is

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the light is in the law of the Lord and in
his law, does he meditate day and night?

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And he shall be like a tree planted
by the rivers of water that bringeth

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forth his fruit in his season.

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His leaf also shall not wither, and
whatsoever he doth shall prosper.

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The ungodly are not so, but are like
this shelf which the wind driveth away.

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Therefore, the ungodly shall
not stand in the judgment.

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Nor sinners in this congregation
are the righteous for the Lord,

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nor the way of the righteous, but
the way of the ungodly shall pers

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let us go to the Lord in prayer.

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Father God Almighty, we come to
this morning, my Father first all.

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We just wanna thank you, father.

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Thank you, my father for lying down last
night and now rising up this morning.

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And closing our right minds with
all our spiritual, physical, mental

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capacities, parts, and problems.

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Thank you, my father.

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It's all because of you that we're at
this particular point in time, my father.

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That we're in the land of the
living once more and again,

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not for ourselves, but for you.

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To share your word with others
and let them know that you are

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the way, the truth, and the light.

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We pray now, my father, that you would
bless our presenter today, my father.

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Fill him with your Holy Spirit, wisdom,
and knowledge so he can be able to give

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us the things that you want us to have.

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and understand my father's
life will be much better.

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My father, knowing you and knowing the
things we should do and not do my father.

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So far, the government is asking for this.

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I thank you for this.

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And your daughter's son,
Jesus Christ, Holy name.

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Amen.

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Dr William T Choctaw: So we
talked about generalized anxiety.

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What are some other types
of anxiety disorders, right?

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So now we're moving from
discomfort to things that you

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may want to look at seeking, um,
um, um, professional help with.

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Panic disorders.

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Panic disorders occur.

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Usually they are very, very fast.

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They occur with a specific
circumstance, and then they go away.

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Once a person is removed or, um,
outside of whatever that environment

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is, Panic completely goes away.

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They, it's like it almost
never happened, right?

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Um, so an occasional panic
disorder may not be anything

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to be that concerned about.

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But if it worries you, then
seek, um, um, um, medical

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attention or professional help.

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Phobias.

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Now a lot of phobias are
things that we're afraid of.

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Um, I think I've mentioned once
before, I'm afraid of heights.

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Now I don't need to see a doctor
because I'm afraid of heights.

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I just stay away from heights.

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Oh, that's pretty basic,

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pretty basic.

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So I will not be going
to the Grand Canyon.

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I will not go to the top of the
Empire State Building to look out.

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I am not one of those kind of people.

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I just am not.

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You know, and I'm okay with that.

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I'm okay with that.

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Uh, because my job does not require
me to go up 10, 000 square feet.

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But the point I want to make is
that all these things are treatable.

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Um, there are psychologists who
do excellent work with phobias.

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Why?

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Because usually those phobias are part of,
are interfering with that person's life.

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Maybe they work in a downtown Los Angeles
building on the third or fifth floor.

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I don't know.

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Right?

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Um, and let's say they're an accountant
or an attorney or, um, a business

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executive, uh, and they have to
get on that elevator every day.

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And by the time they get to their office,
they're, you know, palp they get having

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palpitations and they're perspiring.

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And they say, you know,
I can't keep doing this.

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I got to see somebody.

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So, so these are things
that are all treatable.

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Here's my point,

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let's delve a little more deeply into
some of the causes of, and we're talking

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about more severe types of anxiety now.

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Now one of the causes of
anxiety may be unknown, and that

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itself makes you more anxious.

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Why am I so nervous, why am I upset, I
don't understand what's going on, I don't

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remember anything happening, whatever,
that's possible, that's possible.

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Um, financial concerns, obvious.

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You know, you, you get a notice from
the IRS says, oops, you know what, for

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the last 10 years, we made a mistake.

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We, we, we are so sorry.

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We made a mistake, but guess what?

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You're going to pay for it.

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But we really are sorry.

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I mean, really and truly,
we're sorry about this.

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But send us 10, 000 in the mail
for our mistake, for our mistake.

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And I tell you, if you doubt that,
that was a 60 minute show about this.

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Um, you know, I think last
year sometime, um, uh, side

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effects of certain medication.

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You see a doctor, doctor switches
your medication, puts you on another

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medication, you notice that, you
know, you've just been feeling

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different, you know, you don't know
why, but you don't feel like yourself.

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You feel uncomfortable.

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Again, my word, I like that word
uncomfortable because it sort of

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covers everything, but you don't
know why you're uncomfortable.

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Certainly that's something
you want to take a look at.

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Stress can obviously result from
work, school, personal relationships.

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You know, um, self explanatory, uh,
chronic or serious medical conditions,

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you go in and see the doctor for a test,
that test comes out with something that's

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not good, uh, that will stress you, um,
emotional trauma, um, you broke up with

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your boyfriend or your girlfriend, um,
let, let me parenthetically say, one of

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the places where a lot of these things
become paramount is with teenagers.

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Teenagers.

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And all of you who've had
teenagers, listen to my voice.

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You know exactly what I'm talking about.

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Uh, and with teenagers, because they are
just, and remember the brain of a teenager

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is different from the brain of an adult.

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Right?

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And the brain of a teenager is different
from the brain of a 10 year old.

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So the brain is learning and
developing all the while.

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And so not only are teenagers having
to adjust to dealing with emotion, but

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they've got hormonal issues that they
have no idea what's going on, both

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boys and girls, and they're trying
to figure out what's all this stuff.

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And so my point is that they
may be particularly vulnerable.

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Particularly vulnerable.

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So you've got to be patient with them.

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You got to be patient with them.

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You got to understand where they
are, what they're going through.

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Don't compare them when you
were a teenager, alright?

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Don't do that.

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Well, when I was 15, I didn't do that.

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Well, when you were 15, they were
riding in horses and buggies.

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Ha, ha, ha, ha, ha.

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There was no Microsoft.

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Google didn't exist.

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All right.

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So keep that in mind and be
extra patient and supportive.

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The same is true also with the very,
very elder because you know, life is

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cyclical and when they go back around,
many times they end up going back

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to more of a, uh, a childish type of
approach, which makes it difficult to

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care for them because they fight you.

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They don't help you.

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They make, they make you, they
make your job difficult to get

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them to do what they're supposed
to do and that sort of thing.

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So just, just keep that in mind.

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Um, and certainly if you have a
major performance, now this is one

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of the areas that I call good stress.

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Um, uh, you have to perform, you
have to give a speech, uh, in class

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or you have to give a presentation.

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I have never in my life, I'm 76 years
old and I've never given a presentation

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in my life that I did not get nervous.

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Never, never, never, never, never.

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And I call it good nerves.

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Good nerves.

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Because when I get nervous and
whatever, whatever, and I'm preparing or

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whatever, that makes me do a better job.

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Makes me do a better job.

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Because I say, no, no, no, no.

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This is how we roll, you know.

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We can't mess this up, you
know, blah, blah, blah.

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Whatever those words are that
you have with yourself, right?

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And so you want to do your best.

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You know, because you said my goal is
to inform, educate, motivate, all right?

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How are you going to do that
if you're sloppy, right?

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So, so, so, so my point is some of
that is stressful, but there is,

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that's what I call good stress.

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Next slide, please.

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So, some of the symptoms of anxiety,
um, and these, again, these are, these

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are stress symptoms are, uh, hard
to sleep, hard to relax, and hard to

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think clearly because if you don't get
good sleep, um, sometimes you aren't

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always there when you're awake, right?

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Makes sense, right?

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Uh, because the body is very specific.

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And again, it is a computer.

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So think about computers.

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Computers don't half wave, these computers
are ding, ding, ding, ding, ding, and

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when you're not there, the computer
says, Oh, no, this is not working.

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This is not working.

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We need to do something.

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All right.

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So it's important to come
up with ways to do that.

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Very, very quickly, some of the
signs and symptoms of a sign.

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A symptom is something that you see.

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Let's say if you're a physician, a
patient comes to your office, a sign is

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something that you see with the patient.

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A symptom is something the patient
tells you that you can't see.

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Example nausea.

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Uh, if a patient comes in your
office and say, I'm nauseated, you

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can't see nausea as a physician.

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So they have to tell you that.

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So because they tell you,
we call that a symptom.

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If, on the other hand, um, they
come into your office and they're

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hyperventilated, and you can see that,
that's a symptom, I mean, I'm sorry,

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that's a sign, because you can see it.

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So, just to keep those in mind, and
I'll use those words interchangeably,

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but these are some of the signs and
symptoms, depending on degree, of

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anxiety, tingling and, and shaking.

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Um, numbness, dizziness.

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There's a phraseology I want
you to become familiar with,

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and that is scope and degree.

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Scope and degree.

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And what do I mean by that?

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Scope and degree means whatever
the issue is, how broad is

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it, Is it happening every day?

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Is it happening all day?

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Um, uh, et cetera, et cetera.

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What is the scope?

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Or is that scope very narrow?

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Did it just happen one time and hasn't
happened to me for three months?

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Okay, scope.

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Degree.

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How deep is it?

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How bad is it when it does happen?

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Are you completely immobilized
or can you do stuff but you just

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have to sort of have to deal with
this nagging discomfort, whatever.

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Scope and degree, as many
times, is what determines.

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How fast you see that
health care profession

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scope and degree.

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All of us have anxiety.

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All of us do.

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We all don't need to see a
doctor because of our anxiety.

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The difference is scope and degree.

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And again, my philosophy is
if you're worried about it.

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Just go and seek help.

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Don't try to be a physician, don't try to
be a nurse, don't try to figure it out,

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don't go by what your sister's brother's
aunt told you, you know, just say, you

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know what, I just need to get some answers
here, and you go and get your answers.

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So when we are going through this,
when we are going through this, some

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of the difficulty, and we're talking
about the early part of anxiety, now

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we're moving to the more serious parts.

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Uh, of anxiety, um, um, with
broad scope, um, making it

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difficult for us to do things.

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Um, um, one of the signs is, um,
whether, whether you can do your job.

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Let's say you have a job.

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You get up every morning at 8
o'clock and you go to work, whatever.

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Um, uh, maybe, maybe you can't
get out of bed some mornings.

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That's a problem.

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That's a problem.

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Um, and so, so we humans go through
this, but what we want to do and, and

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the latter part of our discussion this
morning is to talk about things that

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we can do on our end before and along
with us seeking, um, um, uh, medical

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experience, medical, uh, help and support.

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First thing we want to learn how
to do is to control the control.

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We said that before,
control the controllables.

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My experience, I'm going to go out on
a limb and say, um, the only thing I

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can really control is really myself.

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Let me say that again.

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The only thing I can really
control is really myself.

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Now I know the book says that I'm
supposed to be able to control my wife.

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I cannot control my wife.

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She agrees with me.

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She's sitting right in front of me.

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And so my point is, I want to save a
lot of you men some time and effort.

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Don't try.

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Don't even go there.

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Don't even go there.

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And to be honest with you, we
really don't control our kids.

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We may think we do as parents.

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Think about when you were a teenager.

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Think about it.

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Be honest.

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Be honest.

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You don't have to tell anybody.

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But be honest with yourself.

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Did your mom and dad really control you?

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No.

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No, they did not.

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They thought they did.

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So, so my point is that another
big part of anxiety is us trying to

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control things that we cannot control.

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And a big part of that is
we try to control people.

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We do.

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Not sure why, but we do.

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We do.

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Stop doing it.

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Just, just stop.

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Just stop, because it doesn't work.

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It doesn't.

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All you do is make yourself really upset.

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You know, now you're really anxious,
and now you're, you're in a tizzy,

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and you're sweating, and whatever,
whatever, whatever, whatever.

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But recognize, number one, it's not your
job to control other people, you know,

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God is in charge, um, but let that go.

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And you'll be amazed that once you
let go of those things that you

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weren't supposed to be trying to
control anyway, you feel better.

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You feel better.

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You're less angry.

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You're less upset.

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He said, well, put it in God's hands.

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I remember they had a phone call
with one of our sons back in Indiana.

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I forget what we were talking about,
but his comment to me was, well,

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we'll just put it in God's hands.

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And I said, absolutely, absolutely.

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Children talking to adults.

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I said, well, he's not a kid.

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He's 47 years old.

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But anyway, he'll get my drill.

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So don't try to control things
that you cannot control.

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And I'm going to go out on a
limb and say, you cannot control

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other people, even children.

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Now, you can have influence.

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I'm not saying you give up.

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I'm saying if it's important,
you have influence.

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Um, and I'll use children as an example.

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Um, uh, you can get to, but
let's say adult children.

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Let's say you're, you're a parent
and your children are adults.

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Um, and they have their
own homes, their own lives.

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Now, you can tell them what to do.

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You can, you can.

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They will ignore you.

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They'll be nice and they'll say, yes, dad.

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Yes, but they're going to
do what they want to do.

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But my point is, don't
work yourself in a tizzy.

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Because your adult daughter or your
adult son is not doing what you say.

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They will not, and they
probably never did anyway, okay?

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But, doesn't mean you give up.

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Have influence.

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What does influence mean?

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Keeping open those lines
of communication, right?

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Because if I, if I get so hard with
my son, I'm yelling and screaming

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at him, and I get mad, and he
gets mad, and we stop talking.

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What good is that?

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How am I helping him now?

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I can't help him because I don't
even know what's going on, right?

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So you want those lines of communication
open so that if something happens or,

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uh, if, if you could be a benefit,
you are available to do that.

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So what are some of the things that
we should do to help ourselves?

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in terms of anxiety.

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First thing is start doing a
self inventory of yourself.

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Um, how often during the day
do you have negative thoughts?

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This is just something you do
with the person in the mirror.

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Do you think negatively
about some of these?

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Oh, there he goes again.

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You know, I, that just drives me crazy.

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Every time I see him doing that.

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Oh, there she goes again.

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It just drives me crazy.

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Why are they driving you crazy?

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Ha ha ha ha ha.

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They're your thoughts.

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Okay, you put them in your head.

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Take them out.

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Take them out.

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You own the thoughts.

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Get rid of them.

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Right?

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Are they doing it?

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Are they helping you?

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I'm going to suggest they're not.

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Because I'm going to suggest
you don't have any control over,

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again, other people anyway.

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So why you let other
people drive you crazy?

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Don't do that.

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When you have a negative
thought, do a self analysis.

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Why am I thinking that about him?

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Negatively.

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Why do I have that thought?

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What did he ever do to me?

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You know?

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I don't even know the guy.

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I just, I don't know.

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See him on the sixth row
in church on the left side.

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I don't even know him.

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So why in the world would anything
he does or says bother me?

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It should not is my point.

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These are ways that we create.

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anxiety, and stress in
ourselves that are unnecessary.

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Okay?

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And then when we notice the
negative thought, when we question

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the negative thought, then
replace the negative thought.

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Replace it.

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They're our thoughts.

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We own them.

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100%.

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Nobody's this out of our head but us.

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Nobody hears it but us.

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Okay?

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What I'm suggesting is, Take more
control of that prefrontal cortex in your

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cerebral, in your cerebral lobe, okay?

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Say, okay, I'm going
to stop thinking that.

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Replace it with the positive thought.

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They're equal.

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You have a choice.

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And I'm going to suggest to you, if you
think something positive about that guy,

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keep in mind the guy hasn't changed.

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Guy's doing what he does because
he has no idea who you are.

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Nor that he knows what
you're thinking about him.

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So he doesn't care.

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Uh, but you can then take
yourself to a better place.

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By just switching your negative
thought to a positive, okay?

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Thought reframing.

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As a part of that, again, stop
ignoring positive thoughts.

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Now a lot of times, we, we, sometimes
we grow up that way, you know.

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It could be from our mom and our dad who
may have been negative people and they

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say, you always this and you never amount
to that, but it's always a negative.

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As compared to a positive.

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Okay, that's light.

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Can't change that.

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Can't change that.

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But you can change you.

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You don't have to emulate that.

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You can say, no, no, no, no,
I'm, I'm going to be a more

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positive person with my kids.

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You know, you can, you can
correct them, but you don't have

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to criticize their character.

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You know, you can say you did
something bad, but you don't

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have to say you are a bad person.

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Right.

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Um, um, and the whole thing about should.

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Um, a lot of times we folks, we,
we get, um, into a certain area and

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we said, no, it should be this way.

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Those chairs should be striped
and these should be polka dot.

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And who decided that stripe and polka
dots are the colors that they should be?

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Well, that's just the way they should be.

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Well, no.

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Not really.

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Not really.

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Okay.

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So anytime you start feeling that it
should be a certain way, be sure to

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leave open the possibility that there
can be another opinion just as bad.

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Let me share one quick, another
one quick hypothetical with myself.

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True story.

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I told you I'm in the
dominant group, right?

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So I decided to go to law
school, first year in law school.

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And everybody knew that I was a physician.

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I was a little older than those
20 year olds in law school.

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So they knew there was
something funny about me.

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Uh, but they called me doctor in
the class, you know, no big deal.

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But my instructor would give me a, a,
a case where I was defending a, Uh, a

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physician who had been accused of medical
malpractice and it gave me the facts of

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the case and I'd get up and I'd go through
the facts and I would passionately for

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like 10 minutes, you know, defend this
doctor and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.

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And then I sat down, wipe
my brow, cross my legs.

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Next question.

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Next question.

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Oh, the instructor looked at
me, and he said, Okay, Dr.

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Hawkins, that was very good.

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He said, Now I want you to
take the same case, but I want

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you to argue the other side.

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I want you to be the prosecutor of the
doctor who just committed malpractice.

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not his defense attorney.

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Same facts.

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Nothing is different.

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Same facts.

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But I want you to prosecute him.

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Do you know I could do it?

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Same facts, same emotion.

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And I said, Oh, my God.

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So what did that teach me is that
whatever my position is and however

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passionate I am about my position,
somebody else Gonna have another

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position and be just as passionate.

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And they're, they're,
they're good people, right?

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So what, what I've learned is
to sort of let stuff go, to

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sort of let stuff go, right?

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Uh, because then I'm creating
anxiety within myself.

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And so not to try to,
to control everything.

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And the other thing is don't generalize.

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All people do this, all church people do
that, all men do this, all women do that.

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None of that's true.

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Any time you say all, already
you're, you're, you're

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saying something's not true.

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Because you don't know all people.

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You don't.

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You know, you're guessing.

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You're taking one limited experience
and you're generalizing it to everybody.

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Don't do that.

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Because most times you're wrong.

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Okay?

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Next slide please.

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Uh, next slide please.

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Paying attention to what you're doing.

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So when, when, when you get here, we, we
want to help her to get her to smiling

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and laughing and being happy again.

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Okay.

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Uh, and so we've talked about the internal
tools that she can use, uh, in terms

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of understanding what her personality
type is and understanding where she's

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most comfortable and understanding,
um, how she can avoid, uh, one problem

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or another problem and not, um,
overgeneralize in doing other things.

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Next slide, please.

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The other thing is that if all that's
been done, and still the problem

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persists or, and, or increases, again,
thinking about scope and degree, uh,

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certainly you want to think about
making a phone call or making a

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visit to a healthcare professional.

482
00:24:40,574 --> 00:24:43,864
Sometimes, in addition to doing
that, just talking to someone,

483
00:24:44,154 --> 00:24:45,374
maybe that's a good friend.

484
00:24:46,040 --> 00:24:48,360
And, and you just go up
and say, can I talk to you?

485
00:24:48,770 --> 00:24:52,060
You, you, you got a few minutes
and you just lay out whatever

486
00:24:52,060 --> 00:24:55,630
it is you lay out, you know, and
some, we call that ventilation,

487
00:24:56,130 --> 00:24:59,460
you know, physicians use it all the
time, but you just tell your story.

488
00:24:59,799 --> 00:25:02,400
Physicians don't say anything,
you know, they just listen.

489
00:25:02,809 --> 00:25:05,810
And sometimes all you need is just
for somebody to listen and that

490
00:25:05,840 --> 00:25:08,040
is therapeutic, I guarantee you.

491
00:25:08,310 --> 00:25:12,979
Because if you keep it on the inside,
um, and don't share it many times, it

492
00:25:12,980 --> 00:25:14,500
just gets worse and worse and worse.

493
00:25:14,500 --> 00:25:14,689
Thanks.

494
00:25:17,280 --> 00:25:20,980
So, some of the signs of disorder,
now remember this is the advanced type

495
00:25:20,980 --> 00:25:26,530
of anxiety, um, can be, uh, when you
have that person in your home and all

496
00:25:26,530 --> 00:25:30,040
of a sudden they said, um, you know,
you say, aren't you going to work?

497
00:25:30,139 --> 00:25:31,939
Aren't you supposed to be at work now?

498
00:25:32,249 --> 00:25:34,149
Um, they say, no, I'm
not going to work today.

499
00:25:34,589 --> 00:25:35,029
Okay.

500
00:25:35,230 --> 00:25:38,940
And then that happens the second day,
and a third day, and a fourth day.

501
00:25:39,149 --> 00:25:41,990
That's when it's gotten to the
point where it's even more serious.

502
00:25:41,990 --> 00:25:42,110
Okay.

503
00:25:42,645 --> 00:25:47,765
Or, or they, um, they, they, they are
very, very emotional and they're worried

504
00:25:47,765 --> 00:25:49,675
about stuff that hasn't even happened yet.

505
00:25:50,005 --> 00:25:55,985
But you can tell that that scope
and degree is expanding, right?

506
00:25:56,254 --> 00:26:00,415
Um, you want to then, um, you
know, get them some help and

507
00:26:00,415 --> 00:26:02,014
do more yourself to help them.

508
00:26:03,044 --> 00:26:06,425
Uh, let's talk about self care
real quickly before we finish.

509
00:26:06,665 --> 00:26:09,175
Uh, self care is just
being good to yourself.

510
00:26:09,175 --> 00:26:15,510
Do you know that the most biggest,
the biggest critic That you have

511
00:26:15,930 --> 00:26:17,290
is the person in the mirror.

512
00:26:18,660 --> 00:26:23,170
You criticize, and we all do it, and
particularly you go getters, and you

513
00:26:23,170 --> 00:26:27,229
people who made A's in school, and
you know, who are, the guys that own

514
00:26:27,230 --> 00:26:29,270
jobs and own businesses and all that.

515
00:26:29,380 --> 00:26:30,300
We all did it.

516
00:26:30,499 --> 00:26:31,779
Uh, we all do it.

517
00:26:32,079 --> 00:26:34,790
And so my point is, give yourself a break.

518
00:26:35,690 --> 00:26:36,630
You're human.

519
00:26:37,110 --> 00:26:38,430
You're going to make mistakes.

520
00:26:38,450 --> 00:26:40,040
You are not going to be perfect.

521
00:26:40,640 --> 00:26:43,350
Uh, you're not going to
always do it the perfect way.

522
00:26:43,700 --> 00:26:48,480
And one of the things that I I saw a
lot in my practice and I would see, uh,

523
00:26:48,520 --> 00:26:52,210
church people who would come to see me
for different reasons, uh, but a lot

524
00:26:52,210 --> 00:26:53,770
of times they would come with guilt.

525
00:26:54,815 --> 00:26:58,770
I, I, I must be, I must not be a
good Christian because if I had been,

526
00:26:58,770 --> 00:26:59,760
this wouldn't have happened to me.

527
00:26:59,760 --> 00:27:01,320
And I said, no, that's not true.

528
00:27:01,870 --> 00:27:02,620
That's not true.

529
00:27:03,030 --> 00:27:04,379
You know, I said, things happen.

530
00:27:04,410 --> 00:27:06,120
We don't always know why they happen.

531
00:27:06,420 --> 00:27:09,180
I said, but I don't believe it's
because you are not something.

532
00:27:09,510 --> 00:27:13,700
And so my point is, be kinder to yourself.

533
00:27:14,190 --> 00:27:17,340
And one of the ways to do that is
not only not criticize yourself

534
00:27:17,340 --> 00:27:22,160
every day, but always, but also when
something happens, treat yourself.

535
00:27:22,490 --> 00:27:27,649
You know, go get an ice cream cone or,
uh, for me, you know, go to McDonald's

536
00:27:27,650 --> 00:27:32,370
and get an ice coffee or whatever.

537
00:27:32,510 --> 00:27:33,919
But whatever makes you feel good.

538
00:27:33,980 --> 00:27:36,540
Take your wife or your
husband out to dinner.

539
00:27:36,759 --> 00:27:37,900
It can be something little.

540
00:27:37,920 --> 00:27:39,339
It doesn't have to be anything major.

541
00:27:39,669 --> 00:27:41,600
But recognize your wins.

542
00:27:41,649 --> 00:27:42,509
I call them wins.

543
00:27:42,509 --> 00:27:43,379
W I N.

544
00:27:43,769 --> 00:27:45,199
Recognize your wins.

545
00:27:45,529 --> 00:27:48,579
Um, and that helps because
remember this is a process.

546
00:27:49,495 --> 00:27:52,565
You know, this is, this is
not something more than that.

547
00:27:52,915 --> 00:27:55,694
So stop negative thoughts, and
another way to stop negative

548
00:27:55,694 --> 00:27:56,965
thoughts is don't overthink things.

549
00:27:57,895 --> 00:28:00,254
You know, something happens and
you have ten different questions

550
00:28:00,254 --> 00:28:02,875
about, well, it was because of this,
it was because of that, it didn't

551
00:28:02,875 --> 00:28:03,804
mean this, it didn't mean that.

552
00:28:04,014 --> 00:28:07,895
Just stop that, because, because most of
the time if you're overthinking, nothing

553
00:28:07,895 --> 00:28:09,705
good is going to happen with that, right?

554
00:28:09,975 --> 00:28:12,915
Just, it happened, let it go, move on.

555
00:28:13,595 --> 00:28:14,705
Just move on.

556
00:28:15,095 --> 00:28:17,175
And, but if you're one of
those overthinking people,

557
00:28:17,185 --> 00:28:18,095
you need to stop that.

558
00:28:18,990 --> 00:28:19,430
Okay.

559
00:28:19,520 --> 00:28:21,750
And again, remember, be kind to yourself.

560
00:28:22,179 --> 00:28:24,509
That person in the mirror is
really a very nice person.

561
00:28:24,900 --> 00:28:29,879
She's gotten you to this point by
herself, and she's done a good job,

562
00:28:29,880 --> 00:28:33,710
or he's gotten you to this point by
himself, and he's done a very good job.

563
00:28:34,100 --> 00:28:34,870
Keep that in mind.

564
00:28:35,360 --> 00:28:38,510
When I was researching this topic,
and I always research every topic

565
00:28:38,620 --> 00:28:44,730
before I present it, I came across
Seven Bible Psalms to treat anxiety.

566
00:28:44,770 --> 00:28:46,200
I'd never heard of that before.

567
00:28:46,410 --> 00:28:48,030
I said, Oh, isn't this interesting?

568
00:28:48,740 --> 00:28:52,390
So I read it and whatever, and
even more importantly, one of the

569
00:28:52,400 --> 00:28:54,159
seven Psalms is my favorite Psalm.

570
00:28:54,160 --> 00:28:55,450
Psalm 27 Psalms.

571
00:28:56,100 --> 00:28:58,030
The Lord is my refuge and my strength.

572
00:28:58,040 --> 00:28:59,110
Whom shall I fear?

573
00:28:59,550 --> 00:29:02,560
And so my point is, I said, I'm
going to tell people about this.

574
00:29:02,580 --> 00:29:03,820
Maybe some don't know about it.

575
00:29:04,150 --> 00:29:09,470
Um, look over these seven Psalms, use
all seven of them, use one of them or

576
00:29:09,470 --> 00:29:12,630
another Psalm, but, but use the Bible.

577
00:29:13,090 --> 00:29:17,710
Um, freely to help you to
treat and manage your anxiety.

578
00:29:18,060 --> 00:29:21,680
You can use the Bible and still
seek a health care professional.

579
00:29:21,680 --> 00:29:24,709
I'm not talking about either or
I'm talking about doing both.

580
00:29:25,660 --> 00:29:26,850
You can do it all.

581
00:29:26,860 --> 00:29:27,799
You are not limited.

582
00:29:29,600 --> 00:29:37,460
Um, and getting toward the end now, one of
my favorite prayers, um, many, many years.

583
00:29:37,774 --> 00:29:39,905
Um, has always been a serenity prayer.

584
00:29:40,475 --> 00:29:43,294
Um, I just like it
because I like the words.

585
00:29:43,435 --> 00:29:45,135
I like the words of the prayer.

586
00:29:45,504 --> 00:29:48,174
Um, and, uh, next slide.

587
00:29:48,544 --> 00:29:52,794
And, and when I, when you look
at the serenity prayer, the first

588
00:29:52,794 --> 00:29:54,804
thing is it starts with God.

589
00:29:56,095 --> 00:29:57,315
So, so what does that say?

590
00:29:57,364 --> 00:29:58,455
That says I'm not alone.

591
00:29:59,590 --> 00:30:02,500
It says, well, you know, there's
somebody greater than me.

592
00:30:02,980 --> 00:30:09,030
Uh, however I think I am, I . However
great, I think I am higher.

593
00:30:09,030 --> 00:30:13,820
Whatever I am, there's somebody
who is above me and that's God.

594
00:30:13,880 --> 00:30:16,250
So already that, that,
that gives me some solace.

595
00:30:17,060 --> 00:30:18,720
I'm not by myself, right?

596
00:30:20,070 --> 00:30:21,640
The prayer is very clear.

597
00:30:21,990 --> 00:30:26,620
The serenity prayer is effective
and it has three basic elements.

598
00:30:28,240 --> 00:30:30,249
God grant me the serenity.

599
00:30:30,880 --> 00:30:32,340
Serenity meaning peace.

600
00:30:32,970 --> 00:30:39,120
God give me peace, um, um, to
accept the things I cannot change.

601
00:30:40,789 --> 00:30:45,460
So already I'm saying, okay,
there is a God who's in charge

602
00:30:46,270 --> 00:30:47,940
and I can't change everything.

603
00:30:48,565 --> 00:30:50,905
Regardless of who I am
or how good I think I am.

604
00:30:51,395 --> 00:30:54,515
That's, that's a good thing because
already I've taken my words from

605
00:30:54,515 --> 00:30:56,565
here and I've brought them to here.

606
00:30:57,195 --> 00:31:03,464
I've eliminated that wasteful action and
verbiage because it doesn't work anyway.

607
00:31:03,964 --> 00:31:04,414
Okay?

608
00:31:06,694 --> 00:31:11,795
Give me the courage to
change the things I can.

609
00:31:12,455 --> 00:31:14,415
What is the definition of courage?

610
00:31:15,105 --> 00:31:16,645
Courage is moving beyond your fears.

611
00:31:18,555 --> 00:31:20,955
Moving beyond your fears.

612
00:31:21,255 --> 00:31:22,375
Fear doesn't go away.

613
00:31:22,895 --> 00:31:27,785
I used to be afraid of flying, airplane,
as a passenger, not flying the plane.

614
00:31:27,975 --> 00:31:30,805
Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha.

615
00:31:31,355 --> 00:31:33,675
Way in the back, in the
back, not flying the plane.

616
00:31:34,095 --> 00:31:36,475
I used to be afraid of
flying on the plane.

617
00:31:37,015 --> 00:31:42,365
Uh, but, after a while, and it was
really funny, because when I left private

618
00:31:42,365 --> 00:31:45,785
practice, God put me in a position
where I had to fly every other week.

619
00:31:46,900 --> 00:31:49,100
And I said, okay, all right, I get it.

620
00:31:49,150 --> 00:31:49,660
I get it.

621
00:31:49,660 --> 00:31:50,180
I get it.

622
00:31:50,480 --> 00:31:51,100
I get it.

623
00:31:51,480 --> 00:31:53,900
Uh, but I got beyond that.

624
00:31:54,860 --> 00:31:58,999
So I, I'm not completely comfortable
with it, but I wasn't afraid of afraid.

625
00:31:59,680 --> 00:32:02,569
Um, and that took courage.

626
00:32:03,550 --> 00:32:07,650
The fear didn't necessarily go away,
but I could do it and it was okay.

627
00:32:09,020 --> 00:32:12,620
And so my point is, don't try
to get rid of all your fears.

628
00:32:13,120 --> 00:32:14,930
Your fears are not going to go away.

629
00:32:15,100 --> 00:32:18,510
They're a part of you, but
you can move beyond them.

630
00:32:19,330 --> 00:32:21,470
You can move beyond, and
that's what you want to do.

631
00:32:21,660 --> 00:32:23,440
You just don't want your
fears to get in your way.

632
00:32:23,470 --> 00:32:26,570
You can just say, just stand over
to the side, because I've got to

633
00:32:26,570 --> 00:32:27,709
go over here, and you go there.

634
00:32:28,190 --> 00:32:28,850
You go there.

635
00:32:29,829 --> 00:32:33,780
And grant us the wisdom to know
the difference between the two.

636
00:32:34,109 --> 00:32:35,049
What is wisdom?

637
00:32:35,399 --> 00:32:36,799
I call wisdom growth.

638
00:32:37,950 --> 00:32:41,040
Once I've done something, and
if I made a mistake, and I

639
00:32:41,110 --> 00:32:45,100
understood it was a mistake, and
I've learned, I call that wisdom.

640
00:32:45,820 --> 00:32:48,390
Wisdom to me is learning
from your mistakes.

641
00:32:48,970 --> 00:32:50,620
Learning and growing.

642
00:32:50,620 --> 00:32:52,809
So, okay, we'll do that again.

643
00:32:53,470 --> 00:32:53,820
Okay?

644
00:32:55,175 --> 00:32:59,375
And so it recognizes that
life issues are continuous.

645
00:33:00,405 --> 00:33:05,105
I always remember what Pastor McCall
used to say, that we're either coming

646
00:33:05,105 --> 00:33:07,115
out of a storm or going into a storm.

647
00:33:07,765 --> 00:33:10,804
Stuff's going to keep
happening, guarantee you.

648
00:33:11,264 --> 00:33:13,145
Doesn't matter who you are,
it's going to keep happening.

649
00:33:13,525 --> 00:33:14,954
It's going to continue to be tested.

650
00:33:15,864 --> 00:33:19,894
I remember when I was growing up,
there used to be a song they used

651
00:33:19,894 --> 00:33:23,995
to hear in church that said, Lord,
please don't move that mountain.

652
00:33:24,694 --> 00:33:26,415
Just give me the strength to climb it.

653
00:33:27,505 --> 00:33:31,545
And I, I, I finally understood, as
I got older, what that really meant.

654
00:33:31,775 --> 00:33:35,185
That instead of me complaining and
fighting because there are problems, don't

655
00:33:35,185 --> 00:33:39,205
worry about the problems, don't focus
on the problem, focus on the solution.

656
00:33:39,485 --> 00:33:41,345
The solution is climbing
over the problems.

657
00:33:42,155 --> 00:33:42,625
Right?

658
00:33:42,815 --> 00:33:43,095
Right?

659
00:33:43,205 --> 00:33:45,845
And that's where, that, that's
where that wisdom comes from.

660
00:33:46,135 --> 00:33:50,135
And once you climb over that problem,
you get, you then get stronger.

661
00:33:50,345 --> 00:33:54,115
Because when that problem comes back and
says, oh yeah, I remember you, I know how

662
00:33:54,115 --> 00:33:56,565
to do that, and you do it again, okay?

663
00:33:58,565 --> 00:34:03,535
Please keep in mind that if you, uh, want
resources, you can contact your physician.

664
00:34:03,865 --> 00:34:05,845
Um, they have mental health services.

665
00:34:06,065 --> 00:34:10,264
Always use your cell phone,
uh, handheld computer.

666
00:34:10,545 --> 00:34:13,994
Always talk about it, go to the
search part, put in mental health

667
00:34:14,025 --> 00:34:19,535
issues or, um, or whatever, anxiety,
and a bunch of things will come

668
00:34:19,535 --> 00:34:21,145
up for you to, to your go to.

669
00:34:21,525 --> 00:34:24,725
Um, uh, talk to your
family physician, friends.

670
00:34:25,650 --> 00:34:26,730
And you can get help.

671
00:34:27,160 --> 00:34:29,580
Um, um, but please seek help.

672
00:34:29,770 --> 00:34:34,400
And if you're not the person, you can get
help with colleagues, friends, associates.

673
00:34:34,810 --> 00:34:36,250
Uh, and just be observant.

674
00:34:36,810 --> 00:34:37,750
Just be observant.

675
00:34:37,759 --> 00:34:42,439
Sometimes you may be closest to
that person to say, you know, I've

676
00:34:42,439 --> 00:34:46,625
noticed that you know, That you do
X, Y, Z now, you know, are you okay,

677
00:34:46,795 --> 00:34:47,815
blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.

678
00:34:48,025 --> 00:34:50,075
You may be the only person that notices.

679
00:34:50,305 --> 00:34:53,414
And the person's going to say, no, no,
no, I don't understand, blah, blah, blah.

680
00:34:53,414 --> 00:34:58,595
One of the reasons, big theory is, why
women live longer than men, true story,

681
00:34:58,905 --> 00:35:06,675
uh, is that men, women will seek health
care advice and treatment faster than men.

682
00:35:06,985 --> 00:35:10,325
Now that may be all sorts of reasons
for that, but what I'm saying is,

683
00:35:10,325 --> 00:35:15,675
it is what it is, And the faster you
get in to get help, the better it is.

684
00:35:15,775 --> 00:35:19,395
In summary, remember that
everything is really in our brain

685
00:35:19,395 --> 00:35:21,545
and that we have control of this.

686
00:35:21,915 --> 00:35:25,314
There are common causes for
anxiety, but remember, look

687
00:35:25,314 --> 00:35:26,815
at the scope and the degree.

688
00:35:27,224 --> 00:35:29,044
If you are worried, seek help.

689
00:35:29,575 --> 00:35:30,275
Real simple.

690
00:35:30,295 --> 00:35:32,205
If you are concerned, seek help.

691
00:35:32,495 --> 00:35:33,225
Don't wait.

692
00:35:33,235 --> 00:35:34,485
Don't try to diagnose.

693
00:35:34,485 --> 00:35:35,785
Don't try to figure it out.

694
00:35:36,065 --> 00:35:36,845
Get some help.

695
00:35:37,265 --> 00:35:40,694
Remember the seven songs to treat anxiety.

696
00:35:41,075 --> 00:35:46,504
Um, and if, if, if these, if I went
too fast in slides, um, uh, Shelly

697
00:35:46,504 --> 00:35:52,350
Shaw has been gracious enough to put
all of our, um, PowerPoints from the

698
00:35:52,350 --> 00:35:54,400
Masterclass on the church website.

699
00:35:54,980 --> 00:35:59,419
Just, just go and look under ministry
and, and at the bottom of, scroll down

700
00:35:59,419 --> 00:36:03,220
to the bottom of the page, uh, where
it talks about the Masterclass and you

701
00:36:03,220 --> 00:36:05,100
can click on the, uh, the PowerPoint.

702
00:36:05,579 --> 00:36:09,749
Uh, but always consult, uh,
your physician, um, about

703
00:36:09,750 --> 00:36:11,089
anything you're concerned about.

704
00:36:11,649 --> 00:36:18,060
Um, our goal, uh, is not only, uh, treats
your illness, but to keep you well.

705
00:36:18,710 --> 00:36:21,525
And that's why, that's why
we call this Part of this

706
00:36:21,525 --> 00:36:23,415
ministry is a wellness ministry.

707
00:36:23,585 --> 00:36:25,185
We don't want to wait until you get sick.

708
00:36:25,495 --> 00:36:27,515
We want to prevent you from getting sick.

709
00:36:28,235 --> 00:36:30,934
God bless you, and thank
you for being with us.

710
00:36:31,195 --> 00:36:36,415
Happy Mother's Day to all you
mothers, uh, and we can bow our heads,

711
00:36:36,635 --> 00:36:38,605
um, and say the serenity prayer.

712
00:36:39,684 --> 00:36:43,215
God grant me the serenity to
accept the things I cannot change.

713
00:36:44,105 --> 00:36:48,865
Courage to change the things
I can and wisdom to know the

714
00:36:48,865 --> 00:36:50,405
difference between the two.

715
00:36:51,035 --> 00:36:53,704
Be the change that you
want to see in the world.

716
00:36:54,224 --> 00:36:55,155
Have a great day.

717
00:36:55,745 --> 00:36:56,285
Thank you.

718
00:36:56,935 --> 00:36:58,704
Thank you and have a great day.

719
00:36:59,175 --> 00:37:01,034
Outstanding presentation.

720
00:37:01,104 --> 00:37:01,854
Outstanding.

721
00:37:02,274 --> 00:37:03,585
Very informative.

722
00:37:03,895 --> 00:37:04,445
Thank you.

723
00:37:04,504 --> 00:37:05,174
Thank you.

724
00:37:05,354 --> 00:37:06,364
Thank you very much.